Understanding your response to stress
The Hand Brain Model gives us a simple way to understand what stress can change.
Your hand can become a small map of the systems involved in survival, emotion and reflective thinking.
Why this picture helps
A protective response makes more sense when we can see the pattern.
During a frightening or overwhelming experience, the brain and body prepare us to survive. We may feel ready to fight or escape, become very still, disconnect from what is happening, or focus intensely on signs of danger.
At the same time, the skills that help us weigh options, find language, manage impulses and see a wider perspective may become harder to access.
Instead of reading a response as a personal failure, we can recognise a system trying to protect us and ask what would help us feel safe enough to regain choice.
Try it with your own hand
Build the model in four gentle steps.
- 01
Hold up one hand
Your wrist and lower palm stand for the systems that keep your body alive and ready to respond. They help manage breathing, heart rate, movement and survival responses.
- 02
Fold your thumb across your palm
Your thumb stands for connected systems involved in emotion, memory and detecting possible danger. These systems learn from experience and can react quickly when something feels familiar or unsafe.
- 03
Fold your fingers over your thumb
Your fingers stand for the outer parts of the brain. The fingertips over the front of your hand represent prefrontal networks that support language, planning, perspective, impulse control and considered choices.
- 04
Open your fingers when threat rises
The open hand represents a state in which protective responses are leading. Reflective skills are still part of you, while access to words, planning and perspective may become harder until enough safety returns.
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